With the wife, don't get any ideas. Probably been a month, maybe 2 months since we last did the deed. I'm sure it's been a week and a half since I masterbated so I was pretty horny. All it took was a little touching to get me in the mood. About 5 minutes in, my wife said something out of the blue that really shocked me. She whispered "Would you ever want to crossdress while we make love?", perhaps hinting that if I crossdressed more we'd make love more? Now I have done this once before, and I'm 99% sure afterwards she said it felt weird (hence why I haven't tried ever since). I even told her this, and she said "No of course not, why would you think that?" I don't know if she was willing to sacrifice her own feelings, or if she forgot, or if it was just something she said in the heat of passion? But you know what, I'm going to challenge her. Sometime in the future I"m going to get dressed to the nines (which should already make me horny), and see how truthful her statement really is.
Monday, September 1, 2014
Wednesday, August 20, 2014
Another masterbation story
So I went about 5-6 days without ejaculation again. I was really going to see how long I could go again, I was getting good feelings again (and a smell I can't explain, it smells clean and pure). Then I started catching up with TG fiction media this morning and my urges took over. Today I felt different, especially right after doing the deed. I felt like my inner female was actually being pushed out of my body, as if I was silencing her (which I've talked about before). Sometimes I truly believe I masturbate simply to silence my confused brain.
And then all day long, where I would normally have multiple fantasies during the workday but would be silenced because my urges were gone, I was still having them but they were faint. Like imagine if you were sharing a brain with a female other half.. Sort of like that movie with Steve Martin (all of me) but for reals. Well today it felt like she was still there, but she was whispering from 10 feet behind me all day. It's as if she didn't ever truly leave, she was just distant. I'm sure as I recoup and my male hormones grow, she'll get louder and louder until she pops back into my head through my eardrum.
Right now I'm almost feeling guilt, like a roommate that pays half the rent and I just kicked her out of the apartment. My inner female has just as much right to this body my male side does.
And then all day long, where I would normally have multiple fantasies during the workday but would be silenced because my urges were gone, I was still having them but they were faint. Like imagine if you were sharing a brain with a female other half.. Sort of like that movie with Steve Martin (all of me) but for reals. Well today it felt like she was still there, but she was whispering from 10 feet behind me all day. It's as if she didn't ever truly leave, she was just distant. I'm sure as I recoup and my male hormones grow, she'll get louder and louder until she pops back into my head through my eardrum.
Right now I'm almost feeling guilt, like a roommate that pays half the rent and I just kicked her out of the apartment. My inner female has just as much right to this body my male side does.
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Not horny, time for a life change
My mind is so scattered. So I'm not horny, and when I say not horny I mean I'm not seeking out porn. If I attempt to stimulate myself in the shower, I'm still flacid. It's a weird feeling, but I think I really need to ride this out so I can feel real feelings.
Another thing I'm changing in my life besides embracing my femme side, losing weight. I think if you asked a hundred crossdressers what the one honest thing they wish they could change about themselves, the majority vote probably isn't going to honestly be I wish I had boobs or a vagina, they probably wish they had a better body. Every crossdresser is stimulated by beauty, and unfortunately we are a vain bunch that enjoy looking at the female body more than most.
I've been heavy pretty much my whole life, even growing up. Well ok, maybe since 8-9 (most kids aren't fat, it's conditioned as they grow up). When I hit high school, I lost a bunch of weight. Not skinny mind you, but major weight loss (I think I was skateboarding a lot). I slowly regained the pounds and remained so well into my 20's. I ate crappy food, I drank tons of soda, no wonder why I was gaining. Then when I turned 35, I decided to start with cutting out soda. This helped tremendously, and I went from probably 335lbs to about 290 and plateaued. I would lose a pound or two here or there but nothing major. Then finally I got really sick for a good 2 weeks, so I wasn't eating hardly anything. Bam, I dropped to 270lbs. Then we started going to the gym, and doing 4-6 5k races every summer, and by 37 I was looking pretty dam good:
I got myself down to 245lbs which is a decent weight being 6'5". This is one of my crossdressed photos when I was at my lowest weight:
So fast forward to today, and I'm back up to about 290lbs. It's not a total relapse, but still not where I want to be. For the last 2-3 months I've been eating healthy lunches, trying to limit sweets, eating soups / salads for dinner, really not losing anything. My wife is also on a planned meal diet, and although she's lost 10lbs, it's the kind of diet that's very calorie restrictive and she should be losing more. Granted we cheat now and then, nothing that should throw us off that badly. Also I question what's causing us to want to cheat. If our bodies are getting what they're supposed to, shouldn't we be able to eat normally? What's causing these cravings?
As you probably noticed, a big portion of america has gotten fatter. Clothes are getting bigger, cars are getting bigger, it's really an epidemic. You can blame HFCS, you can blame fast food, you can blame portion sizes, or maybe just america's laziness. A lot of us have office jobs where we sit most of the day, we get home from a mind draining day and the last thing we want to do is workout. We want to just plop down in front of the TV and eat our dinner and go to bed.
Personally, I avoid HFCS, I avoid fast food, I avoid sugar (I use monk fruit). My daily caloric maximum should be between 2400-2600 calories, and besides snacks my meals range from 250-500 calories so I should be well below that number. Although I don't workout like I should, I also don't just sit on the couch everyday. If I'm not doing household chores nearly every night, I'm working on my hobby. So you would think I could maintain at least a reasonable figure no? Am I getting to that age where I really have to start working hard to fight my body's slowing metabolism? Well I'm getting tired of being good and still having very good results so I started googling around.
First things first, leg cramp. Yea, I was getting a really bad cramp, like if I was standing for more than 20 minutes I'd have to lean on my other leg bad cramps. I thought I was getting some disease, my body was breaking down. Then I discovered what is likely causing leg cramps, oh look aspertame. I was already putting this crap in my body through water enhancers (I use mio now which uses splenda), and to boost that inktake I was chewing a LOT of gum to try to curb my snacking. Read an article not only is the aspertame bad, tricking your body by making it think it's getting food when it's not, only makes you want to eat food. Since cutting both of those out, I feel quite a bit better.
On to the next body hack. What else could be causing my body not to lose weight, something that I know I do a lot of and isn't necessarily something our ancestors (who didn't have weight problems) might not be ingesting. Oh right coffee. Turns out this stuff is bad, and there's probably a good reason why a lot of america is fat, just look how many starbucks there are out there. Now keep in mind, I don't have high calorie coffee (400 calories frappacinos). I brew plain coffee, put in my 15-20 calories of fat free creamer in, add my zero calorie monk fruit, no problem right? Well as it turns out coffee is bad, especially an addicting drug of a drink (I'm guilty, I have 3-5 cups every morning, even on the weekend when I've slept in). Well this morning I didn't brew one, I want to see if I can stave myself off of it. Me and my wife are both huge coffee drinkers, even on our 3rd keurig, but I want to experiment to see if pounds drop off not drinking any for a couple weeks. Here's why coffee is bad:
http://www.cheeseslave.com/30-reasons-to-quit-coffee
* Over 700 volatile substances in coffee have been identified, including more than 200 acids (ick)
* Caffeine raises blood pressure
* Caffeine increases homocysteine (a biochemical that damages artery walls)
* Caffeine promotes arrythmias
* Caffeine seems to give you energy but it is not real energy — only “chemical stimulation”. According to Cherniske, “The perceived ‘energy’ comes from the body’s struggle to adapt to increased blood levels of stress hormones (I doubt our bodies like being tricked)
* Cutting out caffeine can reduce and even eliminate chronic pain. Pain and tension in our bodies are related to the level of stress hormones in our bodies, which caffeine increases (there's that chronic pain in my leg)
* Caffeine damages the nervous system (vonderbar!)
* Coffee, even decaf, taxes your liver (sorry liver)
* Caffeine impairs digestion (aha, that whole food thing, getting closer)
* Caffeine elevates cortisol (which causes the body to convert sugars to fat, there's the weight gain)
* Caffeine taxes the adrenal glands, which in turn negatively affects your thyroid, sex hormones, and your metabolism (Oh thanks coffee, my thyroid regulates my fat burning, my metabolism is the start of fat burning, and I enjoy my sex hormones even if they aren't the right gender)
* Caffeine plays a role in hypoglycemia and blood sugar disorders. “As part of this (flight-or-flight stress) response, the liver rapidly raises blood sugar levels. This is felt as a ‘lift’ by the person who drank the coffee… but the body must then deal with the metabolic emergency of hyperglycemia (elevated blood sugar) (probably shouldn't be messing with the body's sugar levels, there's that fat burning concept again)
* Coffee plays a role in malnutrition. Caffeine causes an increased loss of thiamin and other B vitamins, calcium, minerals, sodium, chloride, potassium, magnesium, and zinc (ah, so when my body is stripped of those things, it probably triggers hunger so it can get more of what coffee stripped away)
So basically.. coffee is bad, M'kay?
Another thing I'm changing in my life besides embracing my femme side, losing weight. I think if you asked a hundred crossdressers what the one honest thing they wish they could change about themselves, the majority vote probably isn't going to honestly be I wish I had boobs or a vagina, they probably wish they had a better body. Every crossdresser is stimulated by beauty, and unfortunately we are a vain bunch that enjoy looking at the female body more than most.
I've been heavy pretty much my whole life, even growing up. Well ok, maybe since 8-9 (most kids aren't fat, it's conditioned as they grow up). When I hit high school, I lost a bunch of weight. Not skinny mind you, but major weight loss (I think I was skateboarding a lot). I slowly regained the pounds and remained so well into my 20's. I ate crappy food, I drank tons of soda, no wonder why I was gaining. Then when I turned 35, I decided to start with cutting out soda. This helped tremendously, and I went from probably 335lbs to about 290 and plateaued. I would lose a pound or two here or there but nothing major. Then finally I got really sick for a good 2 weeks, so I wasn't eating hardly anything. Bam, I dropped to 270lbs. Then we started going to the gym, and doing 4-6 5k races every summer, and by 37 I was looking pretty dam good:
I got myself down to 245lbs which is a decent weight being 6'5". This is one of my crossdressed photos when I was at my lowest weight:
So fast forward to today, and I'm back up to about 290lbs. It's not a total relapse, but still not where I want to be. For the last 2-3 months I've been eating healthy lunches, trying to limit sweets, eating soups / salads for dinner, really not losing anything. My wife is also on a planned meal diet, and although she's lost 10lbs, it's the kind of diet that's very calorie restrictive and she should be losing more. Granted we cheat now and then, nothing that should throw us off that badly. Also I question what's causing us to want to cheat. If our bodies are getting what they're supposed to, shouldn't we be able to eat normally? What's causing these cravings?
As you probably noticed, a big portion of america has gotten fatter. Clothes are getting bigger, cars are getting bigger, it's really an epidemic. You can blame HFCS, you can blame fast food, you can blame portion sizes, or maybe just america's laziness. A lot of us have office jobs where we sit most of the day, we get home from a mind draining day and the last thing we want to do is workout. We want to just plop down in front of the TV and eat our dinner and go to bed.
Personally, I avoid HFCS, I avoid fast food, I avoid sugar (I use monk fruit). My daily caloric maximum should be between 2400-2600 calories, and besides snacks my meals range from 250-500 calories so I should be well below that number. Although I don't workout like I should, I also don't just sit on the couch everyday. If I'm not doing household chores nearly every night, I'm working on my hobby. So you would think I could maintain at least a reasonable figure no? Am I getting to that age where I really have to start working hard to fight my body's slowing metabolism? Well I'm getting tired of being good and still having very good results so I started googling around.
First things first, leg cramp. Yea, I was getting a really bad cramp, like if I was standing for more than 20 minutes I'd have to lean on my other leg bad cramps. I thought I was getting some disease, my body was breaking down. Then I discovered what is likely causing leg cramps, oh look aspertame. I was already putting this crap in my body through water enhancers (I use mio now which uses splenda), and to boost that inktake I was chewing a LOT of gum to try to curb my snacking. Read an article not only is the aspertame bad, tricking your body by making it think it's getting food when it's not, only makes you want to eat food. Since cutting both of those out, I feel quite a bit better.
On to the next body hack. What else could be causing my body not to lose weight, something that I know I do a lot of and isn't necessarily something our ancestors (who didn't have weight problems) might not be ingesting. Oh right coffee. Turns out this stuff is bad, and there's probably a good reason why a lot of america is fat, just look how many starbucks there are out there. Now keep in mind, I don't have high calorie coffee (400 calories frappacinos). I brew plain coffee, put in my 15-20 calories of fat free creamer in, add my zero calorie monk fruit, no problem right? Well as it turns out coffee is bad, especially an addicting drug of a drink (I'm guilty, I have 3-5 cups every morning, even on the weekend when I've slept in). Well this morning I didn't brew one, I want to see if I can stave myself off of it. Me and my wife are both huge coffee drinkers, even on our 3rd keurig, but I want to experiment to see if pounds drop off not drinking any for a couple weeks. Here's why coffee is bad:
http://www.cheeseslave.com/30-reasons-to-quit-coffee
* Over 700 volatile substances in coffee have been identified, including more than 200 acids (ick)
* Caffeine raises blood pressure
* Caffeine increases homocysteine (a biochemical that damages artery walls)
* Caffeine promotes arrythmias
* Caffeine seems to give you energy but it is not real energy — only “chemical stimulation”. According to Cherniske, “The perceived ‘energy’ comes from the body’s struggle to adapt to increased blood levels of stress hormones (I doubt our bodies like being tricked)
* Cutting out caffeine can reduce and even eliminate chronic pain. Pain and tension in our bodies are related to the level of stress hormones in our bodies, which caffeine increases (there's that chronic pain in my leg)
* Caffeine damages the nervous system (vonderbar!)
* Coffee, even decaf, taxes your liver (sorry liver)
* Caffeine impairs digestion (aha, that whole food thing, getting closer)
* Caffeine elevates cortisol (which causes the body to convert sugars to fat, there's the weight gain)
* Caffeine taxes the adrenal glands, which in turn negatively affects your thyroid, sex hormones, and your metabolism (Oh thanks coffee, my thyroid regulates my fat burning, my metabolism is the start of fat burning, and I enjoy my sex hormones even if they aren't the right gender)
* Caffeine plays a role in hypoglycemia and blood sugar disorders. “As part of this (flight-or-flight stress) response, the liver rapidly raises blood sugar levels. This is felt as a ‘lift’ by the person who drank the coffee… but the body must then deal with the metabolic emergency of hyperglycemia (elevated blood sugar) (probably shouldn't be messing with the body's sugar levels, there's that fat burning concept again)
* Coffee plays a role in malnutrition. Caffeine causes an increased loss of thiamin and other B vitamins, calcium, minerals, sodium, chloride, potassium, magnesium, and zinc (ah, so when my body is stripped of those things, it probably triggers hunger so it can get more of what coffee stripped away)
So basically.. coffee is bad, M'kay?
Monday, July 28, 2014
feelings
So I'm about a week into no masturbating. The weekend I was pretty much okay, today at work was a little hard. I was getting really strong feelings inside, and not "I wanna bang every chic in the office" feelings. I was filled with feelings of wanting to be penetrated, feelings of wanting to dress up, fantasies of wanting to suck cock really badly. So bad in fact when I got home, I borrowed my wife's glass dildo and sucked on it for a few minutes just to fulfill that feeling.
I know what you're probably saying, you're trans! You must explore this side of you! Yea, in a way, I do.. but that's not to say I'd ever transition because I know deep down inside I like being a guy 95% of the time. But yes, I really should embrace these feelings so I can see who truly I am after suppressing my inner woman for so many years.
I know what you're probably saying, you're trans! You must explore this side of you! Yea, in a way, I do.. but that's not to say I'd ever transition because I know deep down inside I like being a guy 95% of the time. But yes, I really should embrace these feelings so I can see who truly I am after suppressing my inner woman for so many years.
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
male nail polish
So to start off with, I had an interesting interaction at a party store this weekend. While picking up balloons for a party, the teenage hindu boy at the register had shoulder length black hair with a faded purple streak in his hair. Didn't think much of it, have no idea what's hip these days, and punks have been doing that since the late 70's.
Then I look down at his hands as he's working the register, every single nail is sparkling with glitter purple nail polish!
My first reaction is "don't let him know you're staring, don't make him uncomfortable, act normal". As me and my wife walk back to the car, I whisper "Did you notice his nails?", to which she says "of course" with a smile. Thinking back, I wished I had given him a thumbs up while pointing to my nails, or something subtle like that. I wanted so badly to let him know someone is cool with him rocking the ambiguous look.
Speaking of nail polish, while doing an image search for the photo above, I ran into this:
http://stylenews.peoplestylewatch.com/2014/02/27/snoop-dogg-nail-art-manicure
Snoop dogg gets his nails french manicured, how cool is that??
My first reaction is "don't let him know you're staring, don't make him uncomfortable, act normal". As me and my wife walk back to the car, I whisper "Did you notice his nails?", to which she says "of course" with a smile. Thinking back, I wished I had given him a thumbs up while pointing to my nails, or something subtle like that. I wanted so badly to let him know someone is cool with him rocking the ambiguous look.
Speaking of nail polish, while doing an image search for the photo above, I ran into this:
http://stylenews.peoplestylewatch.com/2014/02/27/snoop-dogg-nail-art-manicure
Snoop dogg gets his nails french manicured, how cool is that??
Monday, July 7, 2014
Gender dysphoria sucks.. when it's strong
So pretty much my entire life it seems like I've been able to control this female beast inside my head. For some reason today it's really bothering me. Maybe it's my mid-life hormones going goofy, maybe it's not masterbating for 5-6 days, I don't really know. All I do know is that I nearly had a panic attack today. It honestly felt like I was almost having an out of body experience, like even though I was attached to my body, it didn't feel like it was mine because it didn't feel right.
Last night I decided to attempt to half cross-dress. Not my clothes mind you, just my face. I had grown a pretty good stuble after not shaving the entire 3-day fourth of july weekend, so I decided to just shave the left side of my face, then proceeded to only apply makeup to that half. It wasn't quite the dramatic effect, but it was interesting to see both halves of my inner being to compare them instantly side by side. Wasn't the greatest makeup job, but it was also like 9pm at night and I didn't want to get detailed into makeup when I knew I had to remove it only an hour later.
So anyway, getting back to my dysphoria. Something feels different about being in the middle lately. I've always thought of this condition as being more of a blessing than a curse (feeling both sides of the fence and being a truly complete person), but lately it feels more like limbo. I'm neither a male nor a female. I present as male (because that's what society tells me I need to dress as), yet I long to be a woman inside. So in both cases, I'm unhappy. Hence, limbo gendered. Think about other things in life that suck in being neither true or false, but in-between:
Death - limbo: Imagine you die, for some reason you don't go to heaven or hell, you just remain on the planet as a ghost. Some might say that's cool, all the benefits of the living without worrying about food, illness, judgement. Yea, and all the jealousy of the living, and nothing you do has any effect on anything. You'd truly be unhappy pretty quick, and probably look for a way to get out of that mode
Sad / Happy - Limob: Imagine going through life everyday, and neither laughing nor crying. You watch TV, you comprehend what's going on, you understand the story, but nothing makes you laugh, get scared, or anything. You just absorb the material like some sort of lifeless robot.
Missing persons: Imagine a close family member goes missing. Now, they could be alive, but they could also be dead. You have no idea because they are missing, so there's no way to know what status they're in. If you've ever been in that state for a day or two, you'd almost rather they be dead than missing but possibly be alive because at least then you'd have resolution.
Last night I decided to attempt to half cross-dress. Not my clothes mind you, just my face. I had grown a pretty good stuble after not shaving the entire 3-day fourth of july weekend, so I decided to just shave the left side of my face, then proceeded to only apply makeup to that half. It wasn't quite the dramatic effect, but it was interesting to see both halves of my inner being to compare them instantly side by side. Wasn't the greatest makeup job, but it was also like 9pm at night and I didn't want to get detailed into makeup when I knew I had to remove it only an hour later.
So anyway, getting back to my dysphoria. Something feels different about being in the middle lately. I've always thought of this condition as being more of a blessing than a curse (feeling both sides of the fence and being a truly complete person), but lately it feels more like limbo. I'm neither a male nor a female. I present as male (because that's what society tells me I need to dress as), yet I long to be a woman inside. So in both cases, I'm unhappy. Hence, limbo gendered. Think about other things in life that suck in being neither true or false, but in-between:
Death - limbo: Imagine you die, for some reason you don't go to heaven or hell, you just remain on the planet as a ghost. Some might say that's cool, all the benefits of the living without worrying about food, illness, judgement. Yea, and all the jealousy of the living, and nothing you do has any effect on anything. You'd truly be unhappy pretty quick, and probably look for a way to get out of that mode
Sad / Happy - Limob: Imagine going through life everyday, and neither laughing nor crying. You watch TV, you comprehend what's going on, you understand the story, but nothing makes you laugh, get scared, or anything. You just absorb the material like some sort of lifeless robot.
Missing persons: Imagine a close family member goes missing. Now, they could be alive, but they could also be dead. You have no idea because they are missing, so there's no way to know what status they're in. If you've ever been in that state for a day or two, you'd almost rather they be dead than missing but possibly be alive because at least then you'd have resolution.
Sunday, June 15, 2014
amazon is here, review time
ok so I tried everything out...
Wig: Not bad, not good either. I mean for $11 my expectations weren't real high. The hair quality itself is pretty nice for a cheap wig. I dig the colors, but the hair on top is really thin. So thin in fact that if you don't lay it just right, you'll see your wig cap underneath (not a good look)
lashes: They are certainly thinner than most I've tried (so you won't get the butteryfly look), but at the same time they're pretty short so they don't completely fill the eyelid which makes it slightly un-natural (probably not an issue if you're a petite woman with small eyes).
lash adhesive: OMG, this stuff rocks. Not only does the applicator brush help so much, because it's a very liquidy silicone it goes on smooth not sticky, and it really holds them in place. I put a little bit on just to get them tacky so they'd stay in place, and then I actually brushed on a little more on top while they were on my eyelid to make sure it stayed.
Nails - bigger OMG! I'm actually typing right now with them on (which I can usually never even attempt). I AM making a few more typos than I normally do, but they aren't bad. They're JUST long enough to have that sensation that I have long-er french manicured nails. And you know what else, they stick REALLY good.. Like I could totally see these staying on for days, I'm loving the sensation that these nails are stuck to my fingernails. I can scratch my skin and they feel strong and attached.
Wig: Not bad, not good either. I mean for $11 my expectations weren't real high. The hair quality itself is pretty nice for a cheap wig. I dig the colors, but the hair on top is really thin. So thin in fact that if you don't lay it just right, you'll see your wig cap underneath (not a good look)
lashes: They are certainly thinner than most I've tried (so you won't get the butteryfly look), but at the same time they're pretty short so they don't completely fill the eyelid which makes it slightly un-natural (probably not an issue if you're a petite woman with small eyes).
lash adhesive: OMG, this stuff rocks. Not only does the applicator brush help so much, because it's a very liquidy silicone it goes on smooth not sticky, and it really holds them in place. I put a little bit on just to get them tacky so they'd stay in place, and then I actually brushed on a little more on top while they were on my eyelid to make sure it stayed.
Nails - bigger OMG! I'm actually typing right now with them on (which I can usually never even attempt). I AM making a few more typos than I normally do, but they aren't bad. They're JUST long enough to have that sensation that I have long-er french manicured nails. And you know what else, they stick REALLY good.. Like I could totally see these staying on for days, I'm loving the sensation that these nails are stuck to my fingernails. I can scratch my skin and they feel strong and attached.
Friday, June 13, 2014
My week...
So I haven't masturbated all week and it feels sorta good. Monday night I tried one of my hypnosis mp3's from Isabella valentine. I hardly ever feel the effects of hypnosis, but I feel like if I keep trying (like anything with practice) it will eventually get better. I got pretty deep in trance, though I usually get distracted lately because I have this weird muscle cramp I develop if I sit weird on the couch. Anyway, the file has something to do with having an orgasm with whatever fantasy turns you on (subjective). I found it interesting that my subconsciousness felt that being a woman would be the biggest turn on. I started imagining I was getting penetrated, but I could feel I was only partially hard. However when I woke up and looked inside my underwear I did have a lot of pre-cum so I was definitely turned on. Whether hypnosis feels like fake acting or not, it seems your brain doesn't care.
This week I've been drawn to listening to more "female" music than I normally would. Songs like paramore - aint it fun, ass back home with gym class heroes and neon hitch (she's beautiful), and christina perri - human. This song feels like something a girl would listen to after getting in an argument with her boyfriend or her best friend, and trying to comprehend where she went wrong.
My wife is leaving for work sunday morning, so I decided to order a few things from amazon. I've been really digging colored wigs (wife has purple hair) so I decided to get a cosplay wig that's mostly purple with pink highlight in front. It was $11 and has really good reviews so I took a chance.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008HLGP1W/ref=oh_details_o00_s01_i02?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I bought some new lashes, these are supposed to be very natural looking (supposedly real human hair?):
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0092X4JE4/ref=oh_details_o00_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
As well as some new adhesive. I hate that duo crap, it doesn't work, it smells, and it's messy. This one has really good reviews and is made of a silicone, we'll see how it works:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003TTB4SG/ref=oh_details_o00_s01_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Also bought some press on nails (but not that brand). I was recommended these by another crossdresser that said they work really well (better than glue on in some cases) so we'll see how they work. They're pretty short, but maybe that's a good thing. I've always bought nails that were nearly an inch long, and I find that I can't do anything with them on and I end up being useless (especially typing):
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000QM5QL0/ref=oh_details_o00_s01_i01?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I may even paint one of the sets instead of leaving them french manicure. Earlier this week I stumbled upon a nail salon on yelp, and then I started flipping through the photos and got extremely jealous. Of all the things that women get to do that men can't get away with, painting they're nails is pretty high on my list. Here are just some of the very creative and pretty nails I liked:
This week I've been drawn to listening to more "female" music than I normally would. Songs like paramore - aint it fun, ass back home with gym class heroes and neon hitch (she's beautiful), and christina perri - human. This song feels like something a girl would listen to after getting in an argument with her boyfriend or her best friend, and trying to comprehend where she went wrong.
My wife is leaving for work sunday morning, so I decided to order a few things from amazon. I've been really digging colored wigs (wife has purple hair) so I decided to get a cosplay wig that's mostly purple with pink highlight in front. It was $11 and has really good reviews so I took a chance.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008HLGP1W/ref=oh_details_o00_s01_i02?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I bought some new lashes, these are supposed to be very natural looking (supposedly real human hair?):
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0092X4JE4/ref=oh_details_o00_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
As well as some new adhesive. I hate that duo crap, it doesn't work, it smells, and it's messy. This one has really good reviews and is made of a silicone, we'll see how it works:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003TTB4SG/ref=oh_details_o00_s01_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Also bought some press on nails (but not that brand). I was recommended these by another crossdresser that said they work really well (better than glue on in some cases) so we'll see how they work. They're pretty short, but maybe that's a good thing. I've always bought nails that were nearly an inch long, and I find that I can't do anything with them on and I end up being useless (especially typing):
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000QM5QL0/ref=oh_details_o00_s01_i01?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I may even paint one of the sets instead of leaving them french manicure. Earlier this week I stumbled upon a nail salon on yelp, and then I started flipping through the photos and got extremely jealous. Of all the things that women get to do that men can't get away with, painting they're nails is pretty high on my list. Here are just some of the very creative and pretty nails I liked:
Monday, June 9, 2014
Free internet porn is an enabler
For probably the last 2 weeks, I think I've masturbated every weekday (weekends I have no time away from my wife, and even if she did condone such things I doubt I'd have the urge to). Why do I bring this up? Well you know how guys talk about how porn is too easy and accessible, and those endorphins become a drug, and in the end you feel like a cold unloved person that's just been milked by a hand that seems to be controlled by it's own brain? Well now throw gender dysphoria into the mix and it feels ten times worse. Unlike a "typical" man that imagines himself fucking whatever girl is on the computer screen at that moment, someone like me 99.9% of the time imagines he's the girl on the screen either sucking cock, or getting fucked, or masturbating her pussy.
So there's a bit more than just feeling cold, there's a disconnect that hurts even more. Sure, I can visualize myself as that girl, I've gotten quite good at doing that over the past 24 years, but it's imagination. I don't get that visual feedback from seeing myself dressed up in the mirror, every move I make is "mirrored" by the reflection. Of course there's more than just the sense of sight, there's 3 more applicable senses:
Feeling - I don't get the sensation of lacey clothes rubbing against my skin, that incredible feeling of hosiery against my legs, earrings dangling from my ears swaying back and forth, long hair tickling my shoulders, long nails extending out beyond my fingertips and rubbing against my skin, feeling heels on my feet, panties gripping my lower region tight, a bra holding my chest up.
Hearing: I don't get to hear my own voice, I don't get to hear female orgasms come out of my mouth
Smell: This is probably the one missing the most from my life. My wife has a very sensitive nose, while I'm quite the opposite (takes a very strong scent to smell). That means she almost never wears perfume, and when she does it's something very subtle and natural. Not like I'm going to force her to wear a scent she doesn't like, or can't stand anymore than her making me wear cologne (which I don't like because the musky smell of what she likes makes me think of beards, and that just makes my skin crawl).
Should I crossdress? Perhaps, but as many of us know, it takes a lot of time to get dressed up (hell, ask any woman), then double that to make a man look decent. Now imagine not getting home till 6-6:30 every night, eating dinner, watching a little TV, then you're either going to bed, or taking your wife to bed while you ponder who you are and start blogging about your thoughts before you go crazy. And while my wife never seems to mind that I dress up, I sometimes wonder if I'd ever get in a mode where I'm living as a woman outside of work all the time. It might make me a happier person, and I think that's all each person in a relationship wants for their signifigant other.
So there's a bit more than just feeling cold, there's a disconnect that hurts even more. Sure, I can visualize myself as that girl, I've gotten quite good at doing that over the past 24 years, but it's imagination. I don't get that visual feedback from seeing myself dressed up in the mirror, every move I make is "mirrored" by the reflection. Of course there's more than just the sense of sight, there's 3 more applicable senses:
Feeling - I don't get the sensation of lacey clothes rubbing against my skin, that incredible feeling of hosiery against my legs, earrings dangling from my ears swaying back and forth, long hair tickling my shoulders, long nails extending out beyond my fingertips and rubbing against my skin, feeling heels on my feet, panties gripping my lower region tight, a bra holding my chest up.
Hearing: I don't get to hear my own voice, I don't get to hear female orgasms come out of my mouth
Smell: This is probably the one missing the most from my life. My wife has a very sensitive nose, while I'm quite the opposite (takes a very strong scent to smell). That means she almost never wears perfume, and when she does it's something very subtle and natural. Not like I'm going to force her to wear a scent she doesn't like, or can't stand anymore than her making me wear cologne (which I don't like because the musky smell of what she likes makes me think of beards, and that just makes my skin crawl).
Should I crossdress? Perhaps, but as many of us know, it takes a lot of time to get dressed up (hell, ask any woman), then double that to make a man look decent. Now imagine not getting home till 6-6:30 every night, eating dinner, watching a little TV, then you're either going to bed, or taking your wife to bed while you ponder who you are and start blogging about your thoughts before you go crazy. And while my wife never seems to mind that I dress up, I sometimes wonder if I'd ever get in a mode where I'm living as a woman outside of work all the time. It might make me a happier person, and I think that's all each person in a relationship wants for their signifigant other.
Thursday, May 22, 2014
So I was a black girl last night...
In a dream. There was no transformation scene, all of the sudden the dream started out with me running to a mirror to look at myself because I knew I had just swapped bodies with someone. I don't know how it happened, I don't know where my old body was, I just knew I needed to take advantage of this situation. So there I ran to a public bathroom, ironically the men's room. I checked out my body in the mirror, then realized I probably shouldn't be in here so I ran out to go to the ladies room.
At first it was about checking out my darker skin, my female face, my long black hair. Of course just seeing my face and body wasn't enough, of course I had to check out my breasts, so I lifted up my shirt and stared at them... then I started fondling them. I was turning myself on as a woman, but not in a "I'm a woman and I'm imagining a man touching me" kind of a way. Basically if this happened in real life, my usual reaction, I wouldn't immediately switch sexual preferences.
Then I'm realizing that standing in front of a mirror with my shirt up in a public restroom probably isn't the brightest idea if someone were to come in, so I ran to a stall. You know what comes next, pull my pants and panties down and check out my pussy. I didn't look that long, mostly just to see the difference of not having something sticking out down there. Then I began to rub my clit. For some reason it felt awkward. You would think after the many years of watching porn and having sex with my wife it would come completely natural, but I felt like a teenager figuring it out for the first time. It felt like I was doing it right, but I wasn't really getting turned on. I had no fantasy to go with this masterbation, what was my fantasy? I was actually a woman now, where was the fantasy, I was already it. After what seemed like 10 minutes I finally gave up, then the dream faded away as I woke up with my arm asleep. No, not from masterbating, because I rolled over in a weird position. While I waited for the blood to rush back into my hand, I reflected on the dream.
Then I'm realizing that standing in front of a mirror with my shirt up in a public restroom probably isn't the brightest idea if someone were to come in, so I ran to a stall. You know what comes next, pull my pants and panties down and check out my pussy. I didn't look that long, mostly just to see the difference of not having something sticking out down there. Then I began to rub my clit. For some reason it felt awkward. You would think after the many years of watching porn and having sex with my wife it would come completely natural, but I felt like a teenager figuring it out for the first time. It felt like I was doing it right, but I wasn't really getting turned on. I had no fantasy to go with this masterbation, what was my fantasy? I was actually a woman now, where was the fantasy, I was already it. After what seemed like 10 minutes I finally gave up, then the dream faded away as I woke up with my arm asleep. No, not from masterbating, because I rolled over in a weird position. While I waited for the blood to rush back into my hand, I reflected on the dream.
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
Transgender dream without realizing it
Had a dream where I woke up in my parent's house, and I knew I had to get ready for work. I started looking for something to wear, but none of my clothes were there. Frustrated, I was about to give up and simply wear what I had on and maybe just stop at a store to buy a wardrobe, or maybe I simply call in sick? The closets had nothing but women's clothing in it, clearly someone had moved my clothes... or did they? Those were my clothes, yet I knew I couldn't wear any of it because I hadn't transitioned yet. It was oddly frustrating while at the same time deep down subconsciously I knew what was going on.
Thursday, April 3, 2014
been in a real funk
This winter has been absolutely brutal, and it's really taken it's toll on me. I know, 90% of America has felt the affects of polar vortex's, but living in Chicago it meant 3 weeks of -30 temperatures and over 70 inches of total snowfall (it's been above freezing for 2-3 weeks now and there is STILL some snow sitting on the ground where snow banks got 6-7 feet high). It's taken it's toll on my body causing me to stress eat and managed to put 40-50 pounds back on. Because I feel bloated and clothes don't quite fit like they used to, I feel less attractive (and therefore I've lost my urge to crossdress). I guess I can finally empathize how women feel when they fight with weight loss.
Well my wife is in the same boat, so she's taken drastic action by signing up for one of those healthy eating plans where they premake the food and drop it off at your front door (fresh not frozen). She's going to stick to it for a month or two just to get her used to reduced portions again. Because it's not cheap ($700/month, or $10/meal, effectively like eating out every meal), she's doing it alone and I'm sticking to oatmeal in the mornings, soup/salad for lunch, and a bigger salad for dinner. I'm also doing at a minimum 5 minutes of walk/sprints on the treadmill every morning, as well as some stretching yoga on an exercise ball. They say yoga doesn't help you lose weight necessarily, but it does make you aware of your body and encourages you to want to make healthy choices when you realize how stiff and weak your body really is (something you don't realize when day in day out all you do is get up, eat/sleep/work).
So since I don't really even fit in my current female wardrobe, even though I'm slowly coming out of my funk and the urges are slowly coming back, I still made a purchase (though they will always fit). I've always wondered what I would look like with glasses, so I decided to buy some fake female glasses:
They're really pretty, I just hope my wife doesn't give me flack for wanting to wear them. She already gives me flack sometimes when she's frustrated with womenly tasks like shaving and periods, asking me "You sure you want to be a woman?". I can already picture her saying "You should see how fun glasses are when you have to wear them all the time and they get dirty and scratched".
I mean my intent isn't to make fun of people that have to wear glasses, I just think glasses can sometimes be a nice accessory as much as jewelry is. The one actress that really pulls this off is penelope from criminal minds. Not only does she accessorize to the nines, she has like 3 dozen different glasses so that she can match the color to her outfits
Well my wife is in the same boat, so she's taken drastic action by signing up for one of those healthy eating plans where they premake the food and drop it off at your front door (fresh not frozen). She's going to stick to it for a month or two just to get her used to reduced portions again. Because it's not cheap ($700/month, or $10/meal, effectively like eating out every meal), she's doing it alone and I'm sticking to oatmeal in the mornings, soup/salad for lunch, and a bigger salad for dinner. I'm also doing at a minimum 5 minutes of walk/sprints on the treadmill every morning, as well as some stretching yoga on an exercise ball. They say yoga doesn't help you lose weight necessarily, but it does make you aware of your body and encourages you to want to make healthy choices when you realize how stiff and weak your body really is (something you don't realize when day in day out all you do is get up, eat/sleep/work).
So since I don't really even fit in my current female wardrobe, even though I'm slowly coming out of my funk and the urges are slowly coming back, I still made a purchase (though they will always fit). I've always wondered what I would look like with glasses, so I decided to buy some fake female glasses:
They're really pretty, I just hope my wife doesn't give me flack for wanting to wear them. She already gives me flack sometimes when she's frustrated with womenly tasks like shaving and periods, asking me "You sure you want to be a woman?". I can already picture her saying "You should see how fun glasses are when you have to wear them all the time and they get dirty and scratched".
I mean my intent isn't to make fun of people that have to wear glasses, I just think glasses can sometimes be a nice accessory as much as jewelry is. The one actress that really pulls this off is penelope from criminal minds. Not only does she accessorize to the nines, she has like 3 dozen different glasses so that she can match the color to her outfits
Friday, January 17, 2014
Had a nightmare last night
So I'm not afraid to admit it, I've been masturbating a lot lately. I typically go on benders when I'm really stressed at work. Releasing endorphins helps ease that a little bit.
Last night I dreamt that I was doing it so often that I made my penis raw, and then suddenly I looked down and see that I've ripped my foreskin, causing a chunk of the tip to fall off. I freak out, and try putting it back in place, hoping it will bond back together. It's of no use because I can see the tip starting to turn blue and fall back off. In my dream I could feel the pain of raw skin rubbing against my pants. All I kept thinking was "it's amazing how something so pleasurable can cause so much pain".
Last night I dreamt that I was doing it so often that I made my penis raw, and then suddenly I looked down and see that I've ripped my foreskin, causing a chunk of the tip to fall off. I freak out, and try putting it back in place, hoping it will bond back together. It's of no use because I can see the tip starting to turn blue and fall back off. In my dream I could feel the pain of raw skin rubbing against my pants. All I kept thinking was "it's amazing how something so pleasurable can cause so much pain".
Monday, January 6, 2014
Penis in charge
No not that obscure 80's sitcom, your actual penis.
You know what they say, which head is he thinking with? The one upstairs, or the one in his pants. I'm starting to realize how much of my life (and my head filled with fantasies) is controlled by the hormone level of my penis.
You know what they say, which head is he thinking with? The one upstairs, or the one in his pants. I'm starting to realize how much of my life (and my head filled with fantasies) is controlled by the hormone level of my penis.
It's amazing how different my brain thinks when I'm horny compared to
when I've done the deed a couple times. The fact is while I'm writing
this I've masturbated twice in about 24 hours. I typically save up for
3-5 days, then go nuts (no pun intended).
Another thing on my mind (that I feel really guilty for), I probably haven't had sex with my wife in months (maybe even 3-4). It's been so long that I feel like a stranger in bed, I wouldn't even know where to begin. It doesn't help that my wife plays the question game almost every time I start "What are you doing?", almost like she's asking me to ask for permission or something (and she wonders why I've lost my motivation?). I'm actually amazed she's held out. I know she's tired of being the dominate one (hey sorry if my personality is that way, I can't help it if my mind is wired like a woman), but I'm really surprised she hasn't broke and made the first move. Maybe she's not attractive to me anymore, maybe she's not really physically attracted but attracted to confident men (I know it drives her crazy if I let her make any decisions).
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